The Independent Woman

WAIT! Don’t ignore this. I know the topic of a woman having independence and flaunting it when, where, and how she chooses doesn’t seem too interesting. And yes, there is a predictable Beyonce/Destiny’s Child reference. But you’re obviously already reading this and a quitter never wins…so you may as well continue.

Whether you’ve only seen them portrayed as characters in movies or on T.V., read about them in books, or had to do a history project on what may now be considered a dying species, the “Independent Woman” is someone who has not existed without much controversy. Whether she wanted to vote or buy her own bottle of Moet with the sparklers in the club, someone usually has something to say about it. And there within lies my confusion…

I could be wrong or it could be a simple misunderstanding, but why all of the qualms with a woman who can pay her own way? AND ENJOYS IT? Now be clear. I know there are some women who claim independence and are using it to distract other people from their deeply rooted bitterness and I know some men are very happy to be with a woman that will go half or 100% when it comes to finances. HOWEVER, there are some women who take pride in the fact that they can do very well for themselves and their loved ones, and rightfully so.

Back to the confusing part. If Jeezy can say he’s going to buy a chopper, as in a helicopter, to go to the club to make his old girl jealous, why can’t Destiny’s Child talk about the watch and house they bought? IDK, people.

Then there are the guys, men, fellas, etc who complain about women being gold diggers and trying to trap them and yadda yadda yadda, but are bashing the women that can do what they want, when they want to, and not use their man’s money money to get it done. WHY?! All you have to do for this woman is hold her down mentally, emotionally, and physically. You can spoil her with free/inexpensive things like sweet words, romantic getaways to the gun range, and random slow dances to DMX’s How’s it going Down and splurge every now and then on things that actually cost more than time. And because money is not her focus, you don’t always have to spend it! Seems like a win/win.

Of course every woman, just like every man, is different but if she’s mature enough to handle her own business, chances are she’s mature enough to appreciate a man that does more than just spend his hard earned money on her.

All I’m saying is, if you meet a woman who’s doing her thing, respect her hustle. Every woman who has her own is not incapable of letting a man be THE man. No, she may not need you to buy her Chanel bag or her Red Bottoms, but she has a heart, mind, body, and soul that you can take excellent care of if you put in effort.

If all you have and are willing to contribute is your penis and your wallet then…this isn’t for you. I’ll use SAT words next time so you can learn something new.

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(originally posted on 7/17/12 at http://politikin.tumblr.com/)